| My boyfriend of four years and I had moved out of our
parent's houses and in together only a week before I
found out I was pregnant. Much to my horror, he was not
only unhappy that I was pregnant, he wanted me to have an
abortion. He told me that if I had the baby there was no
way either of us could ever be happy again. He felt that
we would follow his parent's pattern and live together,
miserable, poor, and bitter for the rest of our lives,
burdened by a child we had never planned. Although I had
always thought abortion was ok for those who wanted it, I
never thought I could have an abortion and had not
expected to be forced to choose between the life of my
child and the happiness of my best friend and lover. I
had tentatively agreed to have the abortion - feeling
physically ill at the thought - the night before I had
this dream. When I woke up I could see clearly that I
needed to protect our baby and work through the fear
before I could feel relaxed and happy again. We nearly
lost each other over the stress of the next few months,
but the birth changed everything. We now have a lovely
18-month-old daughter who brings us great happiness. |